Thursday, June 25, 2009


I swear, there's a sex scandal around every corner. (and here is a very funny link to a flowchart of Republican sex scandals, 2006-2009 - don't worry, I'll get back to bashing John Edwards (D), soon enough. Sex scandals are bipartisan).

At least this time, Sanford's wife wasn't forced to stand beside or behind him as he made his lame apology. It seems like wives have learned they don't have to humiliate themselves when their husband acts like an ass. And, Jenny Sanford issued a pretty substantive statement, something we've not really seen before. In part:

.....I believe wholeheartedly in the sanctity, dignity and importance of the institution of marriage. I believe that has been consistently reflected in my actions. When I found out about my husband's infidelity I worked immediately to first seek reconciliation through forgiveness, and then to work diligently to repair our marriage. We reached a point where I felt it was important to look my sons in the eyes and maintain my dignity, self-respect, and my basic sense of right and wrong. I therefore asked my husband to leave two weeks ago.......

I believe enduring love is primarily a commitment and an act of will, and for a marriage to be successful, that commitment must be reciprocal. I believe Mark has earned a chance to resurrect our marriage......

.......I remain willing to forgive Mark completely for his indiscretions and to welcome him back, in time, if he continues to work toward reconciliation with a true spirit of humility and repentance.

This is a very painful time for us and I would humbly request now that members of the media respect the privacy of my boys and me as we struggle together to continue on with our lives and as I seek the wisdom of Solomon, the strength and patience of Job and the grace of God in helping to heal my family.
A bit different from the usual, and she leaves the door open to reconciliation. I might dislike her husband's politics and actions, but I applaud her statement. Though, not to quibble, I'm not quite sure how a trip to Argentina is earning a chance to resurrect his marriage. Last year, the Spitzer affair caught me by surprise by how much it hurt. The Edwards affair was devastating. By now, I just roll my eyes. I suppose that's healing?


Lala said...

I think you're further along than I am because a blogger I read just revealed that she cheated on her husband and I felt like throwing up and throwing my computer out the window. I guess I'm still angry.

k@lakly said...

Yeah, Idon't see a whole lot of repentence coming from him...more the I am so sorry that I got caught, not the what I did was wrong and hurtful and deceitful and I am so sorry for it.
Also, he has only spoke in glowing terms about his friendship and relationship with the other womam, not something that lends itself to an ending of the affair.
I think his wife better prepare for the worst, especially with the soon to be made public emails. ugh.
I always think the repubs come off worse in these things cuz they are so preachy about 'family values'. Makes me want to ask them how life is in the glass house as they are standing there with their rocks, I mean stones, at the ready.

Tash said...

"Sex scandals are bipartisan"

This is a true statement; sadly, the hypocrisy seems weighted toward one side in particular. Ahem.

I think I actually see these things differently now that I know you and Turtle/Monkey's mom and a few others -- used to be I could sit back and scoff at the sheer stupidity of getting caught, but now I'm just bitter and angry. I could *not* believe he was crying. I wanted to jump through my tv and strangle him. Fuck you and the plane you rode in on, asshole.

I also loved his wife's statement, especially in comparison to the usual. Hard to say what would've happened here had he played things slightly more smartly and not gotten caught publically. Would things really be on the mend? I thought of you -- I imagine these things stir up a lot of bad memories for you. Here's hoping she finds some inspiring blogs to read.

Astarte said...

I was pretty shocked at the brazenness of this particular event. I mean, he left the COUNTRY! Sheesh! When will these idiots ever learn?!

CLC said...

HE also apologized to the other woman first before his family. I don't see how that is working towards reconciliation. But I have also tried to remind myself not to jump to conclusions because only the two people in the marriage know what's going on. And now as a mother, I can see why she would want to try to save her marriage and the life she has built for herself with him. But seriously, he's an ass.

Am I doing okay? said...

off topic: I accidently forgot the and there's some social media in private beta at Too tired to investigate further. I just signed up. -V