John Edwards. Ugh. I won't link anyplace because it's everyplace. And it just gets uglier and uglier. He's out of politics now (and forever, I don't think you come back from this), so this poking and prodding is just for gossip purposes now.
I was watching GMA this morning and Cokie made the point that painting Elizabeth as a harpy shrew was pretty damn unfair. What do we expect? She has cancer, for god's sake, and her husband is having this sordid affair. Hell yeah, lady, get angry. I know if I were her I would have been afraid, too (I know there are all these timing issues, what she knew when and how that coincided with cancer and recurrence). But overall - you're sick, you might die soon, you have young children - and your husband is off with some kook. I would have been hysterical, thinking about my kids caught up in this and what their future would hold. Ugh.
At least he's getting public judgement. There's one public figure I despise with a passion, and not (just) because of his politics (disclosure for new-er readers: pretty unabashed liberal here). Newt Gingrich divorced one of his wives while she was fighting breast cancer.
I used to, before 2007 and my husband's affair, be afraid I would get sick, really sick, and he would leave. That's how I saw it happening (poor naive me). There are some men, for whatever reasons of upbringing and temperament, who simply cannot deal with hard things - with not being the center of attention, with having to take care of someone else and not, therefore, being taken care of themselves. We have better tools now and a better understanding of ourselves, but I have no illusions.
Back to the bigger issue: People are people. Those with a national spotlight are no less human than anyone else. Should we be surprised at their humantity? Should we expect more from them? I think we should expect them to be flawed humans, but hopefully, as with all of us, doing the best they can.
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