Monday, December 29, 2008

Oh, noes they did not

Remember I last typed we had busted our butts getting presents out to the in-laws? Well, today we got a package from my parents-in-law. They had unwrapped the gifts we gave them, repacked them in the box, added a note that said "we think it is inappropriate to exchange gifts this year" and mailed the box back to us.

Oh yes they did.

17 comments:

k@lakly said...

Cut em loose...

But you already know that's what I'd say.

Think of all the shipping costs you'll save:)

Anonymous said...

OMG. Some people can't just move on, huh? Well when you can finally let them go, you will feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders. And as time passes, it will get easier. Take care.
Claire

Kymberli said...

In my mind popped "Oh no they didn't!" even before I read your response to that thought.

Laura said...

Instead of taking this as an insult, hold your head up high. YOU took the high path and they are wading in the gutter (one filled with raw sewage, I might add). They could have kept the gifts and said nothing, but instead they demonstrated yet again what complete asses they are (and screwed themselves out of return postage in the process - HAH!)

Gee, it must suck to be them. It almost seems they are feeding off every move you make, using it as an opportunity to drive the knife deeper. From what you've written previously, it sounds like no-contact may be the way to go. Your husband can keep contact with his siblings as he wishes. Have him keep the contact with his siblings upbeat and be prepared to change the subject if the topic ever comes up. Perhaps have his therapist help him write a note to them to the effect of "since you desire no contact, we will respect your wishes. If and when you decide to reopen our relationship in a mature and dignified manner, we can revisit the matter"

Sheesh...some people

Tash said...

that sound? is my jaw hitting the ground.

So for informational purposes, how do you propose one send back nothing?

12ontheinside said...

Wow. That is just incredibly rude.

missing_one said...

Holy shit!
What was the point of unwrapping them if they weren't going to accept them in the first place?

Fuckers!

Dora said...

Of course meddling MIL had to see what the gifts were. WHAT ASSHOLES! Hope you saved the receipts to return the gifts.

Brenna's Mom said...

I would save the gifts and give them to them next year.

But that's just me.

CLC said...

WTF? How are these people walking the streets pretending to be normal decent humans?

Kate C said...

De-lurking for the evening because of the sheer "holy crap-ness" of this post. As a woman with an FIL who is an alcoholic, a BIL who is an opiate addict, and a mother who is an opiate addict and facing major jail time for unrelated offenses, all of whom can be pretty nasty when the mood strikes (particularly in the wake of DH'S and my pregnancy loss), let me just say that I am falling over under the weight of the unbelievable meanness you are experiencing right now. As if you really needed this, on top of everything you're already dealing with. I've only been reading your blog for a week (or two), and am already amazed by how well you seem to be handling everything. I think I would have simply ceased functioning by now. I would say that this is one of those times when it's ok to revel in the absolute knowledge that you are the bigger, better person.

Sending lots of warm and cozy vibes your way - and belated congratulations on your new babe! Hopefully 2009 surrounds you with a little more niceness (if it's still out there!).

Am I doing okay? said...

Wow. You did your best and they gave you their worst. I'm so sorry.

niobe said...

Hmmm.... Trying to think of what would annoy them most. Maybe rewrap the boxes (empty this time) and send them back with a note saying how much it means to you to send them gifts at this joyous and blessed season of the year, even though you understand that they can't reciprocate.

Not that I'm actually recommending that you do this, you understand....

Amy, queen of the world. said...

*also delurking*...did this do ANYTHING to convince DH to let them go??? Because my GOODNESS!!! They sure are brave on the phone, computer, returning gifts through the mail....are they this butthole-ish in person as well? Or does their bravery stop behind their shield?
*relurking*

suz said...

My mouth is still hanging open, I cannot believe it. What sad little people they are.

diana said...

Oh, if it wasn't for your dh and kids....
Tell as about the baptism!

Astarte said...

HOLY SHIT!!!!