I think we've made a huge mistake. I thought so after we made it, but this week has me really wondering what we've done.
This baby is due right before Thanksgiving. We suggested my parents should just stay at our house from Thanksgiving through Christmas.
Yeah, I'm not really sure of the logic we were using, either. Partly it was they do have a fixed income, so they would come for the birth, but not Christmas. And that would screw up any scheduling of the baptism. Partially we thought we'd need the help. And that's still logical, except this week has reminded me while they help in some ways, they are a pain in others, so it sort of balances out as a zero sum neutral help situation. They're older, my dad had triple bypass just a year ago, so they're just not as active as my three year old needs. But maybe the pressures of a new baby will shift it to more of a help than hindrance.
But then I remember those early weeks, when it's all about survival. With my daughter, we did whatever we needed to do to get us all a reasonable amount of sleep. So sometimes I slept on the couch, so my husband could get a few hours uninterrupted sleep before going to work. Or he'd stay up downstairs with a fussy baby and I'd snatch a "nap" from 10pm-2am before a feeding. I fear them being more a hindrance than help during all that.
My parents were here for 10 days after my daughter's birth. What I mostly remember is that my mom was constantly saying things like, well, I would have emptied the dishwasher, but I wasn't sure where everything went. Or, I would have done laundry, but wasn't sure how you wanted your clothes folded. My clothes folded. Seriously. I just wanted something clean to wear. They do walk the dog, which is big. But my dad refuses to pick up the poop, so my mom has to do that. My dad has taken over cleaning up the cat vomit this week so that's one thing. But I swear they nap more than any adults should, even if they are 66 and 67 years old.
I was grumpy yesterday with, you know, that little thing called the root canal. So everyone was on my nerves. I'm glad they're here, and glad my daughter is building a relationship with them. She asks every morning if they're still here, so she'll be bummed when they leave next week.
I know we'll muddle through a long 6 weeks in December. At least I hope so. And there's no dis-inviting them now. The holdiays are busy anyway, so there will be other distractions. I hope.
What do you think? Would you have your parents stay with you for 6 weeks?
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