Monday, January 12, 2009


Oh for Pete's sake. The in-laws made a small reappearance. In December, my MIL sent my husband an e-mail essentially saying she was done with us. I wrote about it here and here. Here's the thing about my husband - inertia goes a long way with him. He never responded to the e-mail, nor has he done anything about the returned Christmas presents. (Since we're so in the realm of the absurd with them, I have to say I loved that post made readers de-lurk. Yes, it was that shocking to cause non comment-ers to comment!). He hasn't done anything cause he's not sure what to do, but also life sort of takes off, you know? There's not much time to deal with the drama.

Laura almost nailed it in her comment on this post - they are the ones who feed off the drama. And yeah, when we don't respond, it tends to get to them. So last night husband is checking his personal e-mail account and starts shaking his head. His mother resent the December e-mail. I guess she thinks an e-mail that says we're done with you followed by a cold-hearted returning of presents doesn't really mean they are done? She wants to engage? Ridiculous. She sends an e-mai lsaying don't contact us, then resends it when we don't contact her? She is really the most emotionally immature person I have ever met.

(BTW, the head cold seems a little better today. Maybe we had the worst of it over the weekend. I hope so. Thanks for the ideas, I will definitely try a few new tricks.)


Kymberli said...

Stick to your guns. They deserves nothing more than an eyeroll. Don't even spit in their direction if they're dying of thirst.

Glad you're starting to feel a bit better!

Tash said...

It's really bad that I'm laughing, isn't it. It would really smoke her gourd if she got the email returned to her . . . from all of our accounts. Bwahahahahaha.

Jen said...

De-lurking to say, wow....just. Wow. If that isn't the most crazy crap ever....and I thought *I* had the market cornered on crazy in-laws.

Anonymous said...

Ok, I'm finally commenting .... I'm with Jen, I really thought I could give you a run for your money with the crazy in-laws but I think you're taking the lead.

I fantasize about what I would actually say and do to them for hurting my husband the way they have but the truth is ... if I did it would be reflection of my love and respect for my husband. These are HIS parents, not friends, his actual parents. He needs a connection to them, I could do without, but he NEEDS it. The hurt is beyond anything I could ever verbalize and they could comprehend.

You have to let him take the lead on how to deal with them no matter how much you would tell them off.

It's their are protecting your children, thats all you can do.

You have dealt with a lot, you don't need me to tell you that, but here we are to support you. You're doing a great job allowing this to be your outlet.

I almost de-lurked to comment on the present post but I was stunned into silence. I gasped at my computer. Hang in there.

Glad you're feeling better.

Molly said...

She resent her "goodbye" email, with no added anything? So bizarre. Does she expect a reply?

Am I doing okay? said...

I think she wants you to re-wrap the presents (in the same paper) and send them to her again.

Astarte said...

She is obviously a SERIOUS stewer. You should just email her back the addy for your blog, and let her read what everyone else in the world thinks of her. HA!

Anonymous said...

I would forward the e-mail to her to let her know that it has been read. Probably not the best advice I've ever given!