Friday, January 11, 2008

moving it down

I don't want my last post to remain at the top of the list over the weekend. Recovery - from anything - is not linear. It's fits and starts, good days and bad days, ups and downs, peaks and valleys, etc etc. Yesterday was a shadowed valley, that's for sure. But today is better.

I appreciate the comments, I really do, and they've definitely made me think. And lean in the direction of at a minimum scheduling an appointment with a specialist. It can't hurt, and more info is better than no info. I'd rather know something than speculate endlessly.

Anyway, having a better day today, I want to change the subject.

Yesterday I got an invite to join someone's linked in network - a former classmate from college. One that I didn't like very much while we were in school, but was friendly with as she was a good friend of one of my good friends. I've not seen her since graduation, what, 18 years ago, and that's just fine with me.

So what's the linked in etiquette? I've had others from my college who I had distant relationships with invite me, and I've accepted because I semi-liked them and besides, what's the harm? I really would like to not accept this one.

I'll probably just not respond. But I do have a horror of being rude (and yes, while I say I'm not, and I certainly don't want to be, clearly I'm a bit of a pushover in the female oh please don't anyone not like me sort of way). Do I decline? Block her? Just not respond? What do you do with unwelcome blasts from the past?


meg said...

I have no idea about these network things, I avoid them like the PLAGUE!!!

I would not respond, but that's just me!!

Am I doing okay? said...

I blogged about being stalked on FB (facebook). I ended up blocking the requester and it really bothered me until my husband reminded me that most of those networks will search your email and then send invites to join you network to EVERYONE you've ever emailed. I'm not sure if this is the case for you, but in mine I think that the "stalker" didn't set out to seek me out. Does that make sense? I haven't embraced Linked In, but it came up at work today, so it will make my to do for next week.

Hope you have a GREAT weekend.

BTW - I get so much referral traffic from being in your blogroll. Thank you. -V

Cate said...

Simply decline. This is some person you once knew. You have no obligation to him/her. I don't really get fretting over someone who is not significant in your life but that's just me.

theotherbear said...

I have ignored a Linked In request before when I didn't want to accept and didn't feel comfortable declining.